From Comfort to Empowerment: Yayoi Komiyama on Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship with Food and Self

Aug 23

Episode Summary

The podcast episode is an interview with Yayoi Komiyama, a neuroencoding specialist and transformation strategist who helps women change their relationship with food. Yayoi shares her personal journey, discussing how she used food as a source of comfort and safety from a young age, leading to struggles with body image and an eating disorder. She explains how food became both a friend and an armor to protect herself from emotional pain, particularly during her childhood and adolescence.

Throughout the episode, Yaoi emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-acceptance as the first steps toward healing. She encourages listeners to start by finding aspects of themselves they can appreciate and gradually building on that positive foundation. The discussion also touches on the need for kindness toward oneself and the process of overcoming negative self-talk.

Yaoi promotes her program "Brain to Belly," which focuses on changing thought patterns to improve one's relationship with food. She also mentions her other ventures, including a TV show, a radio show, and a Facebook group. The podcast concludes with a reminder that bringing hidden struggles to light is key to healing.

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https://www.facebook.com/groups/braintobelly
www.ykocoaching.com
https://www.youtube.com/@B2Belly

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00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:04.000 Awesome. 00:00:04.000 --> 00:00:12.000 Good morning and welcome to the secret keepers. Today. My guest is Yaoi. 00:00:12.000 --> 00:00:14.000 Komiyama. 00:00:14.000 --> 00:00:18.000 And I'm gonna allow her to tell you about herself. 00:00:18.000 --> 00:00:22.000 Well, thank you for having me today. 00:00:22.000 --> 00:00:27.000 And so my name is Yahoo. I am. 00:00:27.000 --> 00:00:31.000 A neuro-coding specialist and a transformation strategist. 00:00:31.000 --> 00:00:36.000 Basically working mostly with women. 00:00:36.000 --> 00:00:37.000 Mostly women. 00:00:37.000 --> 00:00:39.000 To change their relationship with food. 00:00:39.000 --> 00:00:42.000 I do have a program and. 00:00:42.000 --> 00:00:44.000 A show. 00:00:44.000 --> 00:00:50.000 And the Facebook group, all by the same name, to make it easier called brain to belly. 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:51.000 And 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:56.000 The name really explains a lot of it, but it is really that. 00:00:56.000 --> 00:00:59.000 To change your relationship with food. 00:00:59.000 --> 00:01:02.000 It really starts from your brain. 00:01:02.000 --> 00:01:12.000 And the belly part is, of course, if you want to change your relationship with food, but also with anything in life. 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:13.000 In your thought patterns. 00:01:13.000 --> 00:01:17.000 The way you think. 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:22.000 Complete and total effect on the actions you take. 00:01:22.000 --> 00:01:27.000 So that is my main message, and. 00:01:27.000 --> 00:01:32.000 My main passion is to help people change the relationship with food because. 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:34.000 That was one of my 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:39.000 Wow! One of the largest. 00:01:39.000 --> 00:01:42.000 No, it wasn't a problem. It was a large. 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:44.000 Influence in my life. 00:01:44.000 --> 00:01:47.000 I was overweight as a child. 00:01:47.000 --> 00:01:56.000 And I think from pretty much at a young age, much from the get go, I would say food was my comfort thing. 00:01:56.000 --> 00:02:01.000 It was my comfort blanket. It was my safety blanket. 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:04.000 And it that evolved into. 00:02:04.000 --> 00:02:08.000 Using food as. 00:02:08.000 --> 00:02:12.000 A way to comfort myself, but also as a way to. 00:02:12.000 --> 00:02:15.000 Create safety, with myself. 00:02:15.000 --> 00:02:17.000 And 00:02:17.000 --> 00:02:23.000 That has really impacted most of my life. 00:02:23.000 --> 00:02:24.000 And. 00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:30.000 That situation influenced and impacted who I am now. 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:33.000 Well, thank you so much for sharing that with us. 00:02:33.000 --> 00:02:42.000 I think food is one of those things that so many people can relate to right, and then having you having understanding of. 00:02:42.000 --> 00:02:46.000 You know? How does the food that we take in through our mouth. 00:02:46.000 --> 00:02:56.000 Then goes into our belly. 00:02:56.000 --> 00:02:57.000 Yes. 00:02:57.000 --> 00:02:59.000 Ultimately affect our brain. And then ultimately, you know the actions that we take and the things that we do in our life really important subject. 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:00.000 And. 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:03.000 And I'm so curious about how you were able to. 00:03:03.000 --> 00:03:05.000 Bring to light this. 00:03:05.000 --> 00:03:14.000 You know, cause this is, you know, sort of a secret you had with yourself is that you know I'm eating this food because it provides me safety and comfort. You know. How did you. 00:03:14.000 --> 00:03:17.000 Bring that to light so that it could be healed. 00:03:17.000 --> 00:03:21.000 Wow! It was a long journey. 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:24.000 For a long time I struggled with. 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:30.000 You know, with the body image shoes. Also, I was like I said I was heavy as a child. 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:36.000 And I think that started because. 00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:44.000 My! I don't blame my mother for this at all. She told me this story, and I think that's where it all started, and it became a habit for me. 00:03:44.000 --> 00:03:46.000 Is that when I was a baby. 00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:49.000 I was born in South Africa, of all places. 00:03:49.000 --> 00:03:58.000 And this is at the heart of apartheid. So this is way back when but it was. 00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:02.000 My father was in the country to. 00:04:02.000 --> 00:04:04.000 Open up a bank branch. 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:05.000 Ends. 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:09.000 South Africa and Johannesburg. 00:04:09.000 --> 00:04:17.000 And at the time there weren't very many people in the country and so my mother and father worked hard to. 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:31.000 Assimilate as well as entertain. When people from Japan came. So like people from the government came other colleagues from banks, financial institutions. They would come, so my mother would have to entertain them. 00:04:31.000 --> 00:04:32.000 And. 00:04:32.000 --> 00:04:36.000 You know, at the time there were imports exporting. Wasn't that. 00:04:36.000 --> 00:04:41.000 Prevalent as it is now, so she had to get creative and reproducing. 00:04:41.000 --> 00:04:44.000 Japanese, like foods. 00:04:44.000 --> 00:04:55.000 And you know she would have people that were coming in from Europe, but that were stationed that were living in Europe for a long time that were away from Japan and things like that, so she would try to. 00:04:55.000 --> 00:04:59.000 Create food that made them think of home and Japan. And all this so. 00:04:59.000 --> 00:05:07.000 Anyway. So she was doing all of that. It was very busy, and after I was born so she had to take care of all those things. So. 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:12.000 Sometimes as a baby. Of course I would cry like, I want my mommy. I'm gonna cry. 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:13.000 Yeah. 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:15.000 So I was crying. 00:05:15.000 --> 00:05:17.000 And of course. 00:05:17.000 --> 00:05:20.000 She and the Nanny and the housekeepers, and whatever. 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:21.000 You know, they all said, oh, let's just feed her. 00:05:21.000 --> 00:05:24.000 So that she'll keep quiet. 00:05:24.000 --> 00:05:25.000 Okay. Okay. 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:29.000 So that's where it started with the food and comfort. 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:32.000 Because, of course, I related food. 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:34.000 With my mother. 00:05:34.000 --> 00:05:35.000 Sure. 00:05:35.000 --> 00:05:38.000 And with comfort and nurturing. 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:42.000 So that was ingrained in me from pretty early on. 00:05:42.000 --> 00:05:46.000 And any time I struggled with anything. 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:47.000 As a kid. 00:05:47.000 --> 00:05:52.000 Of course. When I was like 3, 2, and a half, 3 years old. 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:56.000 We went from Japan. 00:05:56.000 --> 00:06:02.000 To the Us. We moved to the Us. And of course that's another culture shock. New thing. All this. 00:06:02.000 --> 00:06:09.000 And of course food became my friend, so it was always a constant, always a friend to me. 00:06:09.000 --> 00:06:10.000 Wait. It's been. 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:12.000 For most of my life. 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:16.000 But it was also one of those, you know, not so great friends, too. 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:18.000 And 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:23.000 You know I used it as well. It was beneficial for both of us at the time. 00:06:23.000 --> 00:06:27.000 Because I used it to. 00:06:27.000 --> 00:06:31.000 Because I didn't want to get hurt. I would use food to cover up. 00:06:31.000 --> 00:06:37.000 I would use food to comfort me, and I would also use them. 00:06:37.000 --> 00:06:38.000 Fat that I got from that. 00:06:38.000 --> 00:06:40.000 As a barrier. 00:06:40.000 --> 00:06:45.000 As like an armor. 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:46.000 Yeah. 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:47.000 Tell me more about that. Tell me more about. 00:06:47.000 --> 00:06:48.000 The armor the barrier, because that's so relatable for me. 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:49.000 Yeah. 00:06:49.000 --> 00:06:50.000 I. 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:52.000 Oh, really. 00:06:52.000 --> 00:06:54.000 I created that because I didn't want to get hurt. 00:06:54.000 --> 00:06:56.000 You know I didn't want anyone. 00:06:56.000 --> 00:07:03.000 To tease me about the way I looked. Of course, you know, being Asian, what. 00:07:03.000 --> 00:07:06.000 Early early seventies, you know, in. 00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:09.000 And it was pretty much we were in. 00:07:09.000 --> 00:07:13.000 I think we were in regular I mean regular. 00:07:13.000 --> 00:07:17.000 Well, still a private school, but it was still, you know. 00:07:17.000 --> 00:07:19.000 I think maybe I was like one of. 00:07:19.000 --> 00:07:23.000 I don't think it was another Asian person in the school. 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:29.000 I know there was an Indian girl in her family. I remember that. 00:07:29.000 --> 00:07:36.000 From India, but that's all I remember, so I know they were sporadically, and there was a Russian girl. 00:07:36.000 --> 00:07:44.000 And her brother in the school as well. So you know, there were a few other ethnicities, but there were very few. 00:07:44.000 --> 00:07:47.000 People that look like me. So of course I get teased. 00:07:47.000 --> 00:07:51.000 And you know, because I look different. 00:07:51.000 --> 00:07:52.000 Right. 00:07:52.000 --> 00:07:54.000 So of course. 00:07:54.000 --> 00:07:56.000 I get teased. I get hurt. 00:07:56.000 --> 00:08:02.000 That no one's accepting me. You know they're not. They don't like me. 00:08:02.000 --> 00:08:03.000 And of course I turned to food. 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:04.000 And the food. 00:08:04.000 --> 00:08:09.000 Was comfort, but it also created this. 00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:14.000 That around me so that I wouldn't feel hurt. It was like my armor. 00:08:14.000 --> 00:08:15.000 And. 00:08:15.000 --> 00:08:16.000 You know that. 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:19.000 That was something that I used to do a lot. 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:23.000 And creating this armour, and I'm like. 00:08:23.000 --> 00:08:27.000 You know, if I stay big, they're not gonna get to me. They're not gonna get to my heart. They're not gonna. 00:08:27.000 --> 00:08:29.000 Attack me there. 00:08:29.000 --> 00:08:32.000 So that was what I used to do. 00:08:32.000 --> 00:08:33.000 And. 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:36.000 This armor? Was my protection really. 00:08:36.000 --> 00:08:43.000 And that went on for a long time, that even went on, probably until. 00:08:43.000 --> 00:08:47.000 It was on and off, even until high school. 00:08:47.000 --> 00:08:49.000 Yeah, I. 00:08:49.000 --> 00:08:51.000 You know. 00:08:51.000 --> 00:09:00.000 Of course, when I went back to Japan I went to an All girls high school, all girls school, and that wasn't really a good thing, either, because. 00:09:00.000 --> 00:09:03.000 You know girls can be can be very 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:06.000 Cliquy, and very mean. 00:09:06.000 --> 00:09:07.000 Sure. 00:09:07.000 --> 00:09:10.000 So I had a lot of. 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:15.000 Lot of instances where they wouldn't. I felt like I wasn't being accepted. 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:16.000 So of course. 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:18.000 Went to food again. 00:09:18.000 --> 00:09:20.000 And created more of that armor. 00:09:20.000 --> 00:09:23.000 So that I wouldn't get hurt. 00:09:23.000 --> 00:09:27.000 Although that was causing the hurt as well. You know. 00:09:27.000 --> 00:09:28.000 Right. 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:29.000 Oh! 00:09:29.000 --> 00:09:30.000 Yeah. 00:09:30.000 --> 00:09:31.000 And it was like a double edged sword. Really, yeah. 00:09:31.000 --> 00:09:32.000 Vicious circle being created there. 00:09:32.000 --> 00:09:35.000 Yeah. 00:09:35.000 --> 00:09:38.000 You. You kind of hit the nail on the head. Here we talk about. 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:42.000 The adolescents years, and how difficult they are. Just to begin with, right? Because it's. 00:09:42.000 --> 00:09:45.000 Yeah. 00:09:45.000 --> 00:09:49.000 You know, growing and changing, you know, stepping into this. 00:09:49.000 --> 00:09:50.000 This. 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:54.000 You know hormonally this different person that you are, and your brain is changing and. 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:55.000 Yes. 00:09:55.000 --> 00:09:57.000 There's this. 00:09:57.000 --> 00:09:59.000 Belief, that. 00:09:59.000 --> 00:10:06.000 You know, at the age of 18 you're an adult, but the reality of it is. 00:10:06.000 --> 00:10:07.000 Yeah. 00:10:07.000 --> 00:10:09.000 You know, our brain doesn't fully develop until around age 25 for a woman in 20 for a young man. So. 00:10:09.000 --> 00:10:14.000 You know, we got a lot more growing to do, and here we are, you know, going through the. 00:10:14.000 --> 00:10:22.000 These adolescence years, and having things coming at us, and in your reaching for comfort, with food. 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:24.000 You know, because. 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:26.000 Kids are being mean in. 00:10:26.000 --> 00:10:27.000 Yeah, yeah. 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:29.000 There's yeah, there's so much more that could be. 00:10:29.000 --> 00:10:32.000 That can be done with that. So. 00:10:32.000 --> 00:10:38.000 So when I hear you saying is, you know, food. It was this armor, and it protected you, and it kept you safe. 00:10:38.000 --> 00:10:44.000 And but it, but it also was hurting you in the same respect. 00:10:44.000 --> 00:10:48.000 And you've done some obviously some very deep introspective work. 00:10:48.000 --> 00:10:49.000 Yes. 00:10:49.000 --> 00:10:55.000 So I would love for you to share with the audience. Maybe, what some of those steps look like, cause. 00:10:55.000 --> 00:11:09.000 You know, our maybe our an audience member is 1st like going oh, like Aha! Like I relate to what she's saying, and you know. What would you say would be, you know, offer as advice to be that 1st step for someone to take. 00:11:09.000 --> 00:11:11.000 Wow! 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:17.000 You know, the 1st step is to really start loving yourself. 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:22.000 Because I didn't know that concept for a long time. 00:11:22.000 --> 00:11:25.000 I didn't even know it was okay. 00:11:25.000 --> 00:11:28.000 To start loving my. I hated myself for a long time. 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:31.000 And. 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:33.000 And I played small. 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:35.000 Thinking that I had to keep. 00:11:35.000 --> 00:11:37.000 I had to be small. 00:11:37.000 --> 00:11:43.000 That I couldn't shine. I couldn't be who I am. I had to put on this mask. 00:11:43.000 --> 00:11:44.000 And. 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:48.000 It took me a long time to realize it's okay. 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:49.000 To start loving myself. 00:11:49.000 --> 00:11:53.000 To be, who I truly am. 00:11:53.000 --> 00:11:55.000 And it's okay to speak my truth, because. 00:11:55.000 --> 00:12:04.000 You know, every time I said something it was like attack. I was getting attacked. And I was like, No, I'm not going to anymore. I'm just gonna stay like this and stay in my little shell. 00:12:04.000 --> 00:12:07.000 Play the role of this good girl and blah blah right. 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:08.000 Yeah. 00:12:08.000 --> 00:12:11.000 And. 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:14.000 I realized, after, you know, different. 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:18.000 Travels, and within my life, right. 00:12:18.000 --> 00:12:19.000 That. 00:12:19.000 --> 00:12:22.000 It doesn't serve me anymore to be. 00:12:22.000 --> 00:12:24.000 Putting on those masks. 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:28.000 Because. 00:12:28.000 --> 00:12:34.000 It was just exhausting putting on those masks. And then there's a part of me that wanted to rebel so badly. 00:12:34.000 --> 00:12:36.000 So it was like always this. 00:12:36.000 --> 00:12:38.000 Okay, good girl, and then rebel. 00:12:38.000 --> 00:12:39.000 Good girl ravel. 00:12:39.000 --> 00:12:40.000 Here. 00:12:40.000 --> 00:12:52.000 And it was like ruining me inside, because it was like the struggle is like going like this. And then apart, you know, it's like tearing me apart in so many ways. 00:12:52.000 --> 00:12:55.000 And so I think the 1st step is really. 00:12:55.000 --> 00:12:58.000 To say, Who am I? And. 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:00.000 What do I love about myself. 00:13:00.000 --> 00:13:02.000 You know I loved. 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:04.000 I loved books, you know, when I was. 00:13:04.000 --> 00:13:11.000 In those bad situations, I would escape into my fantasy world with books. 00:13:11.000 --> 00:13:13.000 And TV shows and things like that. 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:18.000 And so my imagination was pretty, rampant, and pretty strong. 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:25.000 So. That was something I loved so I was like, well, what do I love my artistic side? 00:13:25.000 --> 00:13:28.000 I love the fact. 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:32.000 You know I have this sense for color. 00:13:32.000 --> 00:13:35.000 Shapes, because that's something I really love to do. 00:13:35.000 --> 00:13:39.000 And so I started exploring. What do I love about myself? 00:13:39.000 --> 00:13:43.000 And then I you know the body part was the hardest, because I. 00:13:43.000 --> 00:13:46.000 Aided. 00:13:46.000 --> 00:13:48.000 At 1 point I really hated my body. 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:56.000 And we take it for granted that we can walk, we can talk, we, our bodies are functioning properly because. 00:13:56.000 --> 00:14:01.000 We don't know that in the outside world there are people that aren't so fortunate. 00:14:01.000 --> 00:14:04.000 And then well, you know, as you get older, you start realizing that. But. 00:14:04.000 --> 00:14:06.000 It was like what part of my body. 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:09.000 Can I love. 00:14:09.000 --> 00:14:10.000 And. 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:13.000 I started looking for different places that I liked. 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:17.000 And I was like, well, I like this area because I could see the bones. 00:14:17.000 --> 00:14:18.000 Oh, okay. Okay. 00:14:18.000 --> 00:14:26.000 Like clavicle. I was like, Okay, I like my clavicle because I could see bones. 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:27.000 Check. 00:14:27.000 --> 00:14:38.000 And that was the only part I could see a bone. Actually. So I was like, Okay, I could love this part. So I started saying, Okay, I love my clavicle. It's the silliest thing. But but that was where it started. 00:14:38.000 --> 00:14:39.000 And then. 00:14:39.000 --> 00:14:41.000 Slowly. I was like, well, I kinda like my smile. 00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:44.000 You know I like my teeth. I have good teeth. 00:14:44.000 --> 00:14:45.000 Yeah. 00:14:45.000 --> 00:14:47.000 You know. And you started. 00:14:47.000 --> 00:14:50.000 Like little bits and pieces. 00:14:50.000 --> 00:14:51.000 You start loving yourself, and I'm like. 00:14:51.000 --> 00:14:53.000 Pretty good sense of humor. 00:14:53.000 --> 00:14:57.000 You know, and I've got a great imagination. So let me just. 00:14:57.000 --> 00:15:00.000 Start, you know, leaning on those things. 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.000 And so I think it was. It's really to start. 00:15:05.000 --> 00:15:07.000 Exploring who you are, what parts of you you love. 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:11.000 You know, and also to give yourself. 00:15:11.000 --> 00:15:15.000 To be kind to yourself. 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:18.000 I think it was a new concept when somebody 1st said to me. 00:15:18.000 --> 00:15:19.000 You know. 00:15:19.000 --> 00:15:24.000 When you look in the mirror, would you say the awful things you say. 00:15:24.000 --> 00:15:28.000 To your best friend or someone you love. 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:36.000 Like you would not say you look like a terrible piece of poo right? You wouldn't say that to your best friend. 00:15:36.000 --> 00:15:39.000 I was easily able to say that to myself. 00:15:39.000 --> 00:15:40.000 Sure. 00:15:40.000 --> 00:15:41.000 And I'm like, Nope, gotta stop. Gotta stop that. 00:15:41.000 --> 00:15:43.000 And. 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:46.000 I started treating myself better. 00:15:46.000 --> 00:15:50.000 Treating myself like I would. 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:52.000 From when I loved dearly. 00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:53.000 Oh, I love. 00:15:53.000 --> 00:15:54.000 And that. 00:15:54.000 --> 00:15:56.000 That was hard, I'm telling you that was hard, but. 00:15:56.000 --> 00:15:59.000 You know you start doing it a little bit at a time. 00:15:59.000 --> 00:16:07.000 Like, you know, starting with the clavicle. Okay? And then I'm like, you know, I kind of like my arms. Okay, they're kind of. 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:12.000 You know, fat, but I I've got little bit of muscle, you know. I. 00:16:12.000 --> 00:16:17.000 I can like my legs a little bit, because they're getting muscular, you know, and things like that. And you start. 00:16:17.000 --> 00:16:21.000 Focusing on the good parts, and then build on that. 00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:22.000 Because. 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:31.000 Baby steps. You have to take. Little. You can't go from 0 to 60, right? You can't. 00:16:31.000 --> 00:16:36.000 And you have to take baby steps and keep stacking those because. 00:16:36.000 --> 00:16:37.000 Little bits. 00:16:37.000 --> 00:16:39.000 Can, you know, eventually create a mountain. 00:16:39.000 --> 00:16:45.000 Yeah, I think we live in a culture where. 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:46.000 Oh, yeah. 00:16:46.000 --> 00:16:54.000 We want, you know, instant everything. We want the easy button, and we want microwave quick. Right? So we we want the weight that we that we've accumulated over the course of a lifetime to melt off in 2 days. 00:16:54.000 --> 00:16:55.000 Ha! 00:16:55.000 --> 00:16:57.000 And we want all of the. 00:16:57.000 --> 00:17:02.000 All of the belief things that we've collected along the way to. 00:17:02.000 --> 00:17:03.000 Yep to. 00:17:03.000 --> 00:17:04.000 A change and shift, as well. 00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:05.000 Yeah. 00:17:05.000 --> 00:17:08.000 And the reality of it is, it does take. 00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:10.000 Yes. 00:17:10.000 --> 00:17:11.000 At that session. 00:17:11.000 --> 00:17:12.000 Right, and that repetition then takes time. 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:18.000 And then we also we get to celebrate ourselves, too. Right? That I took that one step. 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:20.000 Forward! 00:17:20.000 --> 00:17:24.000 To begin my healing process. 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:26.000 I first, st you know, is that greatest level? Is that awareness. 00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:27.000 Yes. 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:33.000 I see now, like I got curious, you know, like you got curious about. 00:17:33.000 --> 00:17:35.000 Huh? This relationship I have with food. 00:17:35.000 --> 00:17:37.000 This is interesting. 00:17:37.000 --> 00:17:45.000 And then you you did the work to kind of dig out the root of that. And here's where this comes from, and. 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:48.000 And I love the fact that you did not project the blame onto your mom. 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:51.000 Cause that's so easy to do right. It's like. 00:17:51.000 --> 00:17:57.000 Is all my mom's folder. This is the neighbor's folder. The government's folder, the you know. Blah blah blah, right. We. 00:17:57.000 --> 00:17:59.000 That projection of blame is easier than. 00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:01.000 Looking yourself in the mirror, and saying. 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:06.000 You know? What? What is it that I do every day. 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:07.000 That makes me feel crummy. 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:08.000 Yeah. 00:18:08.000 --> 00:18:12.000 Because the fact of the matter is, we have a choice. We. 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:15.000 Change. 00:18:15.000 --> 00:18:18.000 Like you said with repetition. 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:20.000 We could change that in an instant. 00:18:20.000 --> 00:18:24.000 By just changing the perspective on something. 00:18:24.000 --> 00:18:30.000 And we have that power. And when you think of that's a big super power. 00:18:30.000 --> 00:18:35.000 It is, it is. And when we hold other people hostage, for it's like, Well. 00:18:35.000 --> 00:18:36.000 You know. 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:44.000 He made me, and she made me, and it made me mad or sad or glad. And you know I learned from a mentor that if someone can make you mad or glad you've been had. 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:45.000 You know, because. 00:18:45.000 --> 00:18:46.000 I like that. 00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:52.000 Yeah, you know, it's like, here's the deal. This is where the rubber meets the road. 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:53.000 This is a U and U deal. 00:18:53.000 --> 00:18:54.000 Yeah. 00:18:54.000 --> 00:18:59.000 So when I'm looking in the mirror, it's like, what am I up against? And I can look back. 00:18:59.000 --> 00:19:01.000 You know it. 00:19:01.000 --> 00:19:02.000 And I can understand. 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:08.000 And know. 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:09.000 Yeah. 00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:12.000 That, you know, traumatic things happened and bullying happened. And and these things happened. 00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:13.000 And. 00:19:13.000 --> 00:19:19.000 I can take that responsibility to make the different choice, because now I have an awareness of it. 00:19:19.000 --> 00:19:22.000 Is my responsibility to do that. 00:19:22.000 --> 00:19:23.000 Yeah. 00:19:23.000 --> 00:19:25.000 And to create the joy and the fulfillment that we're looking for in our life. 00:19:25.000 --> 00:19:26.000 Right. It's like. 00:19:26.000 --> 00:19:30.000 You know you are always so upbeat. 00:19:30.000 --> 00:19:34.000 And you know, and and happy. 00:19:34.000 --> 00:19:44.000 Probably 99% of the time. Right? And then we have moments. 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:45.000 Oh, yeah. 00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:46.000 Where we might dip back down because we're human, right? We're soul living in a body. 00:19:46.000 --> 00:19:48.000 Right. 00:19:48.000 --> 00:19:49.000 Yep. 00:19:49.000 --> 00:19:51.000 Yeah, we're here having this human experience just like everybody else. 00:19:51.000 --> 00:19:55.000 And then all the tools that you've learned along the way you implement. 00:19:55.000 --> 00:19:56.000 Oh, yeah. 00:19:56.000 --> 00:19:58.000 And bounce, and and get bounce back. 00:19:58.000 --> 00:19:59.000 And then. 00:19:59.000 --> 00:20:00.000 It? Yeah. 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:02.000 It's true. It's true. 00:20:02.000 --> 00:20:06.000 Yeah, and all the tools I mean, it's it's. 00:20:06.000 --> 00:20:07.000 Been like. 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:11.000 The last 3 years, I think, with neuron, has really accelerated my growth. 00:20:11.000 --> 00:20:17.000 I think the tools that we've learned there have really helped me to. 00:20:17.000 --> 00:20:19.000 Becomes who I am now. 00:20:19.000 --> 00:20:20.000 Yeah. 00:20:20.000 --> 00:20:21.000 And. 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:22.000 You know. Yeah, I had. 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:27.000 You know there were city things about my life right? Everyone has that. 00:20:27.000 --> 00:20:29.000 And. 00:20:29.000 --> 00:20:30.000 The thing is. 00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:33.000 I decided, Hey, I'm not gonna let life. 00:20:33.000 --> 00:20:37.000 Or the bad things in life. When I'm gonna win. 00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:40.000 I'm going to be the winner at the end of my life. 00:20:40.000 --> 00:20:41.000 Yes, sir. 00:20:41.000 --> 00:20:43.000 You know I'm like hell. No, you're not taking control of it. 00:20:43.000 --> 00:20:45.000 And I'm not. 00:20:45.000 --> 00:20:48.000 So and so, or so, and so, or so, and so. 00:20:48.000 --> 00:20:49.000 Ruin my life. 00:20:49.000 --> 00:20:50.000 Yeah. 00:20:50.000 --> 00:20:52.000 Or I'm not. Gonna give them the power. 00:20:52.000 --> 00:20:55.000 That much you know, power, that much existence. 00:20:55.000 --> 00:20:56.000 That just gave me. 00:20:56.000 --> 00:20:58.000 My life. 00:20:58.000 --> 00:21:01.000 Yeah, I'm like, No. 00:21:01.000 --> 00:21:02.000 Yeah, that is. 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:04.000 I you know it's my life I want to be happy. 00:21:04.000 --> 00:21:09.000 I'm gonna use whatever I learned. 00:21:09.000 --> 00:21:10.000 And. 00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:13.000 Yeah, this was shitty. This was Crappy. Whatever you know, this guy was like this, that was that. 00:21:13.000 --> 00:21:18.000 You know, school was like this, whatever. 00:21:18.000 --> 00:21:22.000 But they all helped me to be who I am now. 00:21:22.000 --> 00:21:23.000 Yeah. 00:21:23.000 --> 00:21:25.000 And I like who I am, though I actually love who I am now. 00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:30.000 Yes, I love that, and the gifts right. The gifts in. 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:40.000 Can. You and I know sometimes people get kind of I think the word gift is crunchy. 00:21:40.000 --> 00:21:41.000 Yes. 00:21:41.000 --> 00:21:42.000 But it really is a gift, that blessing in disguise when we can. 00:21:42.000 --> 00:21:46.000 Take apart the things that have happened along the course of our life. 00:21:46.000 --> 00:21:48.000 And see you know what this was here as. 00:21:48.000 --> 00:22:00.000 As a learning. This was here to teach me something. This was here to help my soul evolve along the way so that I can look at other people, and it teaches us resilience. 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:03.000 Yes. 00:22:03.000 --> 00:22:04.000 Yes. 00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:05.000 Right and and compassion and empathy, because now I get other people and think. 00:22:05.000 --> 00:22:06.000 Oh, you know like. 00:22:06.000 --> 00:22:08.000 If that. 00:22:08.000 --> 00:22:13.000 Checkout person is being very unkind. I question. 00:22:13.000 --> 00:22:18.000 You know. 00:22:18.000 --> 00:22:19.000 Yeah. 00:22:19.000 --> 00:22:20.000 What is it they need? What's going on in their life? Right? So we can see that bigger picture. 00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:23.000 You take all of those things that you've learned, and then here you are today. 00:22:23.000 --> 00:22:26.000 You know, celebrating the fact that. 00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:33.000 You know, you not only do you have a TV show, but you have a radio show. And you have, you know, a Facebook group and. 00:22:33.000 --> 00:22:36.000 And you're doing all the things as a neurone coding. 00:22:36.000 --> 00:22:38.000 Specialist. 00:22:38.000 --> 00:22:42.000 And with all of that being said. 00:22:42.000 --> 00:22:44.000 Tell everybody how they can find you. 00:22:44.000 --> 00:22:46.000 Oh! 00:22:46.000 --> 00:22:52.000 Yes, they can find me and bring to belly coachingcom. 00:22:52.000 --> 00:23:02.000 Or they can find me at my Facebook group bring to be like, everything is brain to be. I just made it simple so that everyone could find me brain. 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:04.000 To belly. 00:23:04.000 --> 00:23:12.000 Because my main thing is like I said, I want to change people's relationship with food because I did go through an eating disorder myself. Got through that. 00:23:12.000 --> 00:23:14.000 And I see so many. 00:23:14.000 --> 00:23:18.000 Especially women, struggling with. 00:23:18.000 --> 00:23:21.000 The relationship with food and. 00:23:21.000 --> 00:23:23.000 It doesn't need to be a struggle. 00:23:23.000 --> 00:23:26.000 There can be a. 00:23:26.000 --> 00:23:27.000 A good. 00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:28.000 Place where you can find that piece. 00:23:28.000 --> 00:23:30.000 Each person's different. 00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:32.000 And what size doesn't fit all. 00:23:32.000 --> 00:23:36.000 But I want to be able to help them find that piece, because. 00:23:36.000 --> 00:23:40.000 I'm finally there. Yes, sometimes I do slip up. 00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:46.000 But you know what I'm human, and who gives up in the grand scheme of things. 00:23:46.000 --> 00:23:47.000 Yeah. 00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:48.000 Because. 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:51.000 And the grand scheme of things. Okay, I had. 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:55.000 A chocolate bar scarfed on a chocolate bar. So what. 00:23:55.000 --> 00:24:00.000 Yeah, in what in 10 years is that gonna make a difference if I can do it every single day? Yes, but. 00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:06.000 If it's just once in a blue moon, or once in a few weeks. 00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:09.000 It's nothing. 00:24:09.000 --> 00:24:10.000 So. 00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:11.000 Right. It says, you know, am I having this. 00:24:11.000 --> 00:24:12.000 Am I having this chocolate bar. 00:24:12.000 --> 00:24:18.000 Because I really wanna treat? Or is this some way. 00:24:18.000 --> 00:24:19.000 Right. 00:24:19.000 --> 00:24:23.000 You know you curious about it? Right? It's like, Oh, you know, why am I eating this chocolate? Is. 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:24.000 Yeah. 00:24:24.000 --> 00:24:26.000 You know? Why? Why do I want this. 00:24:26.000 --> 00:24:27.000 Yeah, is it? 00:24:27.000 --> 00:24:28.000 Right the Main Valley Relation. 00:24:28.000 --> 00:24:30.000 Is it the hunger? Yeah. Is it real hunger? 00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:33.000 Or is it emotional hunger that we're trying to satisfy. 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:34.000 Yeah. 00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:35.000 Yeah. 00:24:35.000 --> 00:24:36.000 Yeah, so those questions, yeah. 00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:42.000 So, Yup, to be just remember me as the brain to belly lady 00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:48.000 You can find me on Facebook. I have a group, and you know I'm always welcoming new people to the group. 00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:55.000 I'm also on the neuro encoding as Yahoo Kumiama. 00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:56.000 And. 00:24:56.000 --> 00:24:59.000 And 00:24:59.000 --> 00:25:01.000 Yeah, if you Google, me, you'll find me, too. 00:25:01.000 --> 00:25:03.000 I think 00:25:03.000 --> 00:25:10.000 And another thing that you can find me is why and Ko coaching. 00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:15.000 That is another one. That's my old address, email address and my code. 00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:16.000 Name of the company, so. 00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:18.000 It's really. 00:25:18.000 --> 00:25:22.000 Yaako Yako is my nickname YAKO. 00:25:22.000 --> 00:25:24.000 So I took y. 00:25:24.000 --> 00:25:27.000 Ampersand as the A, and Ko. 00:25:27.000 --> 00:25:30.000 And then coaching, so. 00:25:30.000 --> 00:25:31.000 I love it. 00:25:31.000 --> 00:25:33.000 So. Yes, to remember me. 00:25:33.000 --> 00:25:40.000 Yeah, perfect. I I love the brain to belly, and I really appreciate you coming and sharing. 00:25:40.000 --> 00:25:41.000 With our audience. 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:42.000 Because. 00:25:42.000 --> 00:25:48.000 You know, the whole purpose of the secrets is, you know, what we bring to light can be healed. 00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:49.000 Right, in. 00:25:49.000 --> 00:25:50.000 Definitely. 00:25:50.000 --> 00:25:54.000 And we either we pass these things on, or we inherit things as well. 00:25:54.000 --> 00:26:01.000 And the goal being, you know, we're gonna bring it to light. We're gonna heal it. And then it's just it's a done deal. 00:26:01.000 --> 00:26:02.000 So. 00:26:02.000 --> 00:26:03.000 And. 00:26:03.000 --> 00:26:04.000 It's really. 00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:05.000 Thank you. 00:26:05.000 --> 00:26:07.000 Yeah, thank you. Thank you for having me. 00:26:07.000 --> 00:26:09.000 It's been an honor to be here and. 00:26:09.000 --> 00:26:14.000 To be able to have this opportunity to share my story. So thank you. 00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:15.000 You're welcome. 00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:19.000 So follow Yayo and. 00:26:19.000 --> 00:26:22.000 Look for her brain to belly stuff. 00:26:22.000 --> 00:26:23.000 Thank you. 00:26:23.000 --> 00:26:24.000 Please, do. 00:26:24.000 --> 00:26:25.000 Thank you.

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